New Jersey begins holding same-sex weddings

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San Francisco City Hall is lit up in rainbow colors the night before the city’s gay pride parade. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Jessica Hand, center, celebrates with her wife Jenna Melili during a marriage ceremony at City Hall in San Francisco on Saturday. Hand bought the wedding dress for $50 at a thrift store. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Jessica Hand, in the wedding dress, and her wife, Jenna Melili, enjoy a cruise in San Francisco Bay on Saturday after getting married earlier in the day. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Army Sgt. Michael Potoczniak and Todd Saunders, left; and Cynthia Wides, in the veil, and Elizabeth Carey wait to get married at City Hall in San Francisco on Saturday (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Dave Martinez, in blue, hugs his new husband Kenny during a marriage ceremony at San Francisco’s City Hall on Saturday (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Army Sgt. Michael Potoczniak and Todd Saunders have a witness sign their marriage license at City Hall in San Francisco Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Elizabeth Carey, left, and Cyntia Wides embrace as Army Sgt. Michael Potoczniak and his partner Todd Saunders wait patiently in line to get married at City Hall in San Francisco on Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Cynthia Wides, left, and and Elizabeth Carey of Oakland walk out of City Hall a married couple Saturday in San Francisco. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Army Sgt. Michael Potoczniak and his partner Todd Saunders exchange rings during a marriage ceremony at City Hall in San Francisco Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Army Sgt. Michael Potoczniak kisses his partner Todd Saunders as they stand in line to get their marriage license at City Hall in San Francisco Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Rachael Hadley left, and her new wife Kim celebrate with their children Sidney, left, and Phin at City Hall while getting married Saturday in San Francisco. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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A couple who have been together for 33 years sign documents to get married at City Hall in San Francisco Saturday (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Brandie Yelland, left, hugs friend Erika Lewis in support of her marriage outside City Hall in San Francisco Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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A couple show off their wedding rings after getting married at City Hall in San Francisco Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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A couple hug during a marriage ceremony at City Hall in San Francisco Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Cal Joy, center, and Olga Yip join hands in marriage as their daughter, Sasha Yip, 6, observes in San Francisco City Hall on Saturday. “It’s almost indescribable how it feels for us to be able to do this when for so long we felt like it was an unreachable goal,” Joy said. (Susannah Kay / Los Angeles Times)

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Adrian Coleman, front, dances with Matt Ferrer on Saturday in the United Nations Plaza in downtown San Francisco, where gay rights supporters celebrated the resumption of same-sex weddings in California. (Susannah Kay / Los Angeles Times)

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Ashlee and Ky Meyer-Choi touch noses after getting married in San Francisco City Hall on Saturday. “We’ve overcome a lot of struggles to be together, so to see all the support and love is something we haven’t experienced,” Ky said. (Susannah Kay / Los Angeles Times)

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Barb and Heather Miller-Webb kiss on the steps outside City Hall after being married Saturday. (Susannah Kay / Los Angeles Times)

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George Lucas, left, and Tom Rothgiesser, both 79, who met in Johannesburg, South Africa, and have been dating for 50 years, got married in San Francisco on Saturday. (Susannah Kay / Los Angeles Times)

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Newlyweds Carey Myslewski, left, and Katy Yan walk out of City Hall on Saturday. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Jeff Zarrillo, left, and Paul Katami are married by Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa at City Hall in downtown Los Angeles after the 9th Circuit Court lifted the stay on same-sex marriage in California. (Christina House / For the Times)

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Jeff Zarrillo, left, and Paul Katami speak to the media immediately after their wedding ceremony by Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa at City Hall in downtown Los Angeles. (Christina House / For the Times)

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Alan Tekerlek, left, and K.C. Bugg celebrate in the crowd as their friends Jeff Zarrillo and Paul Katami are married by Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa. (Christina House / For the Times)

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Supporters applaud as Sandy Stier, second from right, and Kris Perry prepare to get married at San Francisco City Hall by California Atty. Gen. Kamala Harris. Gov. Jerry Brown ordered all counties in the state to begin issuing licenses immediately after the 9th Circuit Court ruling. (Justin Sullivan / Getty Images)

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Sandy Stier, left, and Kris Perry kiss their son, Elliot Perry, after they were married at San Francisco City Hall. (Justin Sullivan / Getty Images)

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Joe Varnell, left, and Kevin Bourassa, who became Canadas first legally married gay couple in 2001, welcome the courts decision at a Toronto bar. (J.P. Moczulski / AP)

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Hundreds of gay rights supporters gathered in West Hollywood on Wednesday to celebrate the Supreme Court rulings on the Defense of Marriage Act and California’s Proposition 8. (Gina Ferazzi / Los Angeles Times)

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Carlos Jimenez, left, and Mike Dardenelle of the San Fernando Valley kiss during a gathering on San Vicente Boulevard celebrating the Supreme Court decision Wednesday affirming a lower court’s ruling that declared Proposition 8, which banned gay marriage in California, unconstitutional. Jimenez and Dardenelle, who met online, have been dating for 15 years and plan to get married as soon as possible. (Susannah Kay / Los Angeles Times)

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Rainbow flags and flags of equality are raised in West Hollywood. (Gina Ferazzi / Los Angeles Times)

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Vincent Cervantes, left, and his partner, Vince Pancucci, embrace during a rally in West Hollywood after the Supreme Court’s ruling against Proposition 8. (Wally Skalij / Los Angeles Times)

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Kirsty Hood, 24, left, kisses Nora Tavitian, 23, at the Equality California offices in West Hollywood as a crowd celebrated the U.S. Supreme Court’s long-awaited decision on Proposition 8, California’s ban on same-sex marriage, Wednesday morning. (Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

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A crowd gathered at the Equality California offices in West Hollywood cheers the Supreme Court’s decision on Proposition 8. (Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

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Brandon Benoit, center, hugs Martha Acevedo, left and Briana J. Castaneda during the celebration at the Equality California offices in West Hollywood. (Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

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Partners Alicia Guajardo, left, and Isabella Restrepo of Sylmar join the celebration at the Equality California offices in West Hollywood. (Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

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Gay marriage supporters prompt motorists to honk their horns as they pass Equality California offices in West Hollywood to join in the merriment after the Supreme Court handed down its ruling on Proposition 8. (Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

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Gay marriage supporters celebrate outside the Equality California offices in West Hollywood after Wednesday’s ruling by the U.S. Supreme Court that the sponsors of California’s controversial Proposition 8 did not have the legal standing to appeal a 2010 ruling against the measure. (Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

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From right, David Cooley, Brandon Brown, Colby Melvin, Cory Leech and Wildran Quesada celebrate the Supreme Court decision to strike down a key part of the federal Defense of Marriage Act. (Irfan Khan / Los Angeles Times)

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Brandon Brown, 28, left, and Colby Melvin, 25, hug as as they celebrate the Supreme Court decision to strike down a key part of the federal Defense of Marriage Act. (Irfan Khan / Los Angeles Times)

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Brandon Brown, 28, left, gets a piece of cake from Colby Melvin, 25, as they celebrate the Supreme Court decision to strike down a key part of the federal Defense of Marriage Act. (Irfan Khan / Los Angeles Times)

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Robin Tyler tears up as she looks at her partner Diane Olsen during a press conference at attorney Gloria Allred’s office in Los Angeles, where they discussed the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision on same-sex marriage cases. They were the first in California in 2004 to announce that they would file a lawsuit challenging the ban on same-sex marriage in California. (Barbara Davidson / Los Angeles Times)

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The plaintiffs’ team in Hollingsworth vs. Perry, the California Proposition 8 case, celebrate on the steps of the Supreme Court after Wednesday’s ruling was handed down. From left are Jeff Zarrillo, his partner, Paul Katami, attorney David Boies, Sandy Stier and her partner, Kris Perry. (J. Scott Applewhite / Associated Press)

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Elana Kessler, left, is embraced by friend Hannah Greenberg as she speaks by phone with her mother on the steps of the Supreme Court after the court issued its rulings in two same-sex marriage cases. (Win McNamee / Getty Images)

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Gay rights activists react outside the U.S. Supreme Court building in Washington after the ruling on California’s Proposition 8. (Mladen Antonov / AFP/Getty Images)

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Plaintiffs Kristen Perry and Sandy Stier, left, and Jeffrey Zarrillo and Paul Katami arrive at the Supreme Court Wednesday morning to hear the high court’s ruling on California’s Proposition 8, which forbids on same-sex marriage. (Jim Lo Scalzo / EPA)

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Members of the public wait in line to enter the Supreme Court to hear their rulings on two same-sex marriage cases. (Jim Lo Scalzo / EPA)

By Matt Hamilton

Oct. 20, 2013 10:52 PM PT

At 12:01 a.m. Monday, Beth Asaro and Joanne Schailey said “I do” in the place that matters most to them — and became among the first gay couples to wed in New Jersey, the 14th state to permit same-sex marriage.

They’ve been together 27 years, since Asaro asked Schailey out for a movie and Chinese food. In 2007, they became the first Garden State couple to be joined in a civil union. When New York legalized same-sex marriage in 2011, they formally wed there. But that wasn’t the place they’ve called home for 16 years.

This time, “It really means everything,” Asaro, of Lambertville, said in a telephone interview as she prepped for her post-midnight nuptials. “What’s really going through our mind is to not faint. It’s so huge.”

After the clock struck midnight Sunday, several city halls began performing marriage ceremonies for same-sex couples. The New Jersey Supreme Court set the ceremonies in motion by refusing to block a lower court order that called for marriages to begin Monday. The court cited the U.S. Supreme Court ruling that struck down parts of the federal Defense of Marriage Act.

Troy Stevenson, executive director of Garden State Equality, called Monday “the day that New Jerseyans have been waiting for for decades,” but cautioned that the legality was not set in stone.

Last year, Republican Gov. Chris Christie vetoed legislation to legalize same-sex marriage, saying he wanted the issue put to a vote. Stevenson’s organization is pushing to build enough support in the Legislature to pass another gay marriage bill and override any future veto.

The state Supreme Court has not ruled on the constitutionality of same-sex marriage per se, but has said that the state failed to show it was likely to prevail. Friday’s ruling states that marriages can be performed for same-sex couples while the case proceeds. Oral arguments are scheduled for January.

But advocates are encouraged by the opinion, written by Chief Justice Stuart Rabner.

“The state has advanced a number of arguments, but none of them overcome this reality: Same-sex couples who cannot marry are not treated equally under the law today,” Rabner wrote. “The harm to them is real, not abstract or speculative.”

Although Christie has repeatedly said he opposes same-sex marriage, he will abide by the court ruling, his press secretary said.

“While the governor firmly believes that this determination should be made by all the people of the state of New Jersey, he has instructed the Department of Health to cooperate with all municipalities in effectuating the order of the Superior Court under the applicable law,” Michael Drewniak said in a statement.

The District of Columbia also allows gay marriage.

The court’s opinion came as good news to Lambertville Mayor David DelVecchio, who works closely with Asaro, a City Council member.

“It’s really giving them full citizenship,” DelVecchio said. “Everything in life will be easier. They’ll have the same rights that we have.”

DelVecchio performed the civil union and the marriage ceremony for Asaro and Schailey.

Since Asaro and Schailey were already legally married in New York, New Jersey’s 72-hour waiting period after obtaining a marriage license didn’t constrain them. But other couples were scrambling to get a waiver before midnight.

Garden State Equality’s Stevenson said a judge in Essex County had issued waivers for same-sex couples in Newark and Asbury Park. The Associated Press reported that a judge in Aberdeen had waived the wait for Karen and Marcye Nicholson-McFadden, two plaintiffs in the lawsuit wending its way through the courts. They were to wed in Asbury Park.

Newark Mayor (and U.S. Sen.-elect) Cory Booker was to perform the weddings of seven couples, both gay and straight. During his first ceremony, a protester interrupted, calling gay marriage “unlawful in the eyes of God and Jesus Christ.” The protester was removed and the ceremony continued, the Associated Press reported.

As for Asaro, her sister-in-law had finished applying her makeup hours before the nuptials, she said, and she was getting ready to slip into her Jackie O.-style pink sleeveless wedding dress from Neiman Marcus.

But a honeymoon will have to wait until spring.

Last fall, Superstorm Sandy wrecked their Seaside Park vacation home just a month after they bought it. They hope the repairs will be finished by March.

“We’ll go down there and finally enjoy it,” Asaro said, “for the first time.”

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