The hippest new trend? Civility.

WASHINGTON -- There are 40,000 “Choose Civility” magnets around suburban Howard County, Md., and more on the way. Some adorn cars; others sit on office desks as reminders.

“Please Drive Gently” bumper stickers have started to appear on the vehicles of some drivers in suburban Montgomery County.

Believe it or not, some people are trying to make the world a little nicer.

“People are longing for civility,” said Valerie Gross, executive director of the Howard County Library.

That is the longing that overwhelmed Johns Hopkins University professor Pier Massimo Forni, who got this quiet civility movement started.

He remembers the moment clearly, although it was more than a decade ago. He was giving a lecture on “The Divine Comedy” at the Baltimore campus, and looked out over the earnest young faces.

“I would like very much that they know everything about Dante,” he thought. But more urgently, “I wanted them to be kind human beings.

“At the time I did not know it would change my life,” Forni said, “but it did.”

And, although such things are hard to quantify, his epiphany appears to be changing other lives as well.

Six years ago, Forni published “Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct.” The book has sold 100,000 copies and has become the focus of seminars and reading groups in Howard and Montgomery counties, as well as communities nationwide.

Dozens of Howard County’s civic, business and philanthropic partners have joined its library in supporting an ongoing schedule of related events. On May 14, a “Choose Civility Symposium” will feature former Baltimore Colts defensive lineman and author Joe Ehrmann discussing the importance of empathy.

Some Howard schools have made civility part of their curriculum. At Hammond High School in Columbia, teachers met over the summer to read and discuss “Choosing Civility” and are using some of the 25 rules as topics for classroom discussions. The book seemed like a good way to follow up a yearlong series of talks aimed at understanding and preventing bullying, guidance counselor Jane Mooney said.

“It’s a natural progression,” she said. “Our goal here is to set a civil climate in the schools.”

Forni’s message has been honed by research into ethics and manners through the ages and experiences gained with colleagues who helped him found the Johns Hopkins Civility Project, a forum for academic discussions and outreach projects to inner-city school students and prisoners.

His rules, which fit on a bookmark, make civility seem attainable. They are short: “Pay attention.” “Speak kindly.” “Respect others’ opinions.” Yet in a world of traffic jams and jangling ring tones that easily irritate, they require heightened awareness and cultivated discipline to achieve.

Even so, Gross believes they respond to an intense need, a craving for gentleness and kindness in a harsh world.

“I keep the magnet on my desk,” said Clarky Davis, a spokeswoman for Ascend One, a holding company that provides financial services to consumers in debt. “If you are dealing with a challenging customer, it’s good to have it there. It helps you refocus.”

Although people are born with an inclination toward civility, Forni believes, they need teachers. His teacher was his mother, Sheba Lolly. He said he never dreamed his musings on civility would gain such a following. These days, he sits at his cluttered university desk, answering e-mail from all over the world, from people pondering the timeless quandaries of civil behavior.